stuff i do every day to feel good:


1. I compliment other femmes, especially femmes who live with systemic oppression, on their presentation. I tell them they look good and I love their eyebrows/hair/dress/whatever. I ask permission first.

2. I try to slow down and be really present


3. Sometimes I just have to get through it, but I try and have a sense of how long it takes to actually do things, and to leave myself wiggle room to be late, have shit not go according to plan, and to breathe.


4. I drink agua de chia, nettle/redraspberry/red clover tea, and cedar tea

5. I cook good food for myself, at home.

6. I stretch

7. I have a really intense gratitude practice that helps me take care of and hold my anxiety.

8. I tend my altar and pray for folks and myself.

9. I keep our kitchen and my bedroom clean and tidy.

10. I hug people.

11. I pay attention to who I want to hang out with, who I want to gift my attention to.

12. I hang out with a minimum 50% femmes of color

13. I don't work with folks I don't work well with.

14. I don't hang out with folks whose ableism, classism, racism or femmephobia make me feel shitty. And I don't feel guilty about this.

15. I tell myself, "Ok, you're not alowed to be on Facebook."

16. I have faith

17. I practice forgiving myself when shit doesn't work out according to plan or perfect.

18. I listen to good music.

19. I go outside and get on the land.

20. I am reprogramming my crisis/ must respond immediately to every email/phone message call like it's an emergency.

21. I say no to shit.